My husband was an NFL head coach, but we raised our 3 kids with strict rules about money. Christmas meant just 4 gifts.0

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• November 15, 2026

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Kiya Tomlin, founder and designer of Kiya Tomlin apparel. It has been edited for length and clarity. As the wife of an NFL coach, I was highly visible, but didn’t feel seen. I was always acknowledged as someone’s wife, and most conversations revolved around my husband’s